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The Elf on the Shelf has taken some flak in recent years for packaging omnipresent surveillance as cute holiday fun for. Yet maybe the problem with Christmas is not the little guy on the shelf, but the big guy in the sleigh. That giving spirit, however, is one-sided.
Only the grown-ups who get to play Santa are experiencing the joy of giving. Read: Why children get gifts on Christmas: A history. For kids, Santa is all about getting. And certainly, research shows that kids appreciate the gifts they get as long as those gifts are the gifts they want. But the getting part is where the problems begin.
How are kids supposed to make sense of this unfairness? Thankfully, the Christmas songs have it all worked out. Meanwhile, the parents who are actually doing the giving seem extremely unlikely to withhold presents for disciplinary reasons. So maybe the bully deserved the Xbox? We still sing along with Santa songs on the radio, and we watch Santa movies on TV. Where we differ from many other Christian families is that we tell the kids that Christmas gifts come from real people, not Santa.
Instead, when other kids talk about Santa, my 6-year-old just smiles and nods politely, or occasionally plays along. That means focusing on what Jesus taught about the likely fate of the rich man, and about not worshipping false gods. And it means being grateful for the freedom we have to practice our religion as we choose. And, as the sociologist Allison Pugh finds in her researchkids can get their sense of dignity from having the same things as their friends.
And that brings me to the third reason not doing Santa feels like the right decision for us. It means my husband and I can and basically have to have frank conversations with our kids about how privileged they are. These lessons about privilege seem especially important this year.
In our researchmy team and I have talked with so many families who are struggling to put food on the table, let alone buy gifts. Popular Latest. The Atlantic Crossword. In Subscribe.Santa said i was naughty so
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